How do I establish boundaries with a partner who won't work or help around the house? Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus
A reader's husband won't work, tend to his health, or do much of anything
A reader asks…
I have a question about equity of work/financial contribution and general stability. For the period of my relationship (about 8 years) I have worked full time and completed numerous qualifications. I’ve also parented my children and his. My other half has been plagued with work injuries, mental illness, joint replacements, and other issues which mean he never seems to have job stability or be someone I can rely on if I needed to rely on him the way he has done me.
I don’t want to be unkind or uncaring about his lot in life but I’m also exhausted and feel resentful that he’s always the one having time off work and getting time to properly relax when I haven’t had a holiday in 4+ years.
How do I put better boundaries in place so my needs are also met when it feels like his are always greater and more important?
Thank you :)