Feminist Advice Friday: He was bad to me. I'm heartbroken anyway. How do I move on? (paid subscriber bonus)
A reader jumped from one abusive relationship to another. She's heartbroken that the second bad man left her, and wonders how to move on.
A reader asks…
After 8 months of removing my abusive ex husband out of our home I met a man on eHarmony. I was a giver, he was a taker (hindsight). I waited 3 months before sleeping with him.
Then 4 months we had what I thought was a dream relationship. I fell so in love with him, unlike anyone I have ever loved. At 7 months for about 2 weeks he just stopped answering my texts. Then sent a text telling me he was going on his own journey. He then blocked me so I could not contact him.
A month later I reached out to him via Facebook (I was and still am blocked via phone) and he called in response. He was cold, mean, condescending to me on that call, told me he had a "new lady" and hung up on me.
A year later, I am still completely devastated and I cry everyday. Honestly, I wish he would return and we could marry. I know how idiotic this sounds. They are my heart emotions. I don't have interest in any other man/men. I feel like he took my heart. Is this possible? I tried calling him a year later from a payphone. He was again mean, cold, condescending and said "I've made it clear" "this has to stop" so I said "alright, bye." Thanks, Zawn.