How unequal is your marriage or partnership? Find out with this tool.

A comprehensive assessment for weighing how equal or unequal your partnership really is

Excuses abound for inequality in marriage.

“But he works long hours!”

As if working 40 or 50 hours a week is in any way comparable to working nonstop and never having a break.

“But he’s just not good at it!”

“But he’s neurodivergent!”

As if we make these excuses when women are neurodivergent or not naturally good at things.

One of my favorites, though, is the way we gaslight women about chore inequality. We tell them not to ignore what’s obvious and plain before their eyes. We convince them that somehow changing the oil four times a year is exactly as much work as caring for children all day every day while also working outside of the home.

It’s pure foolishness.

So we need an objective measure to assess inequality, and sadly those measures are sorely lacking.

Not anymore. I’ve created one. In just a few minutes, you and your partner can assess exactly how much work you’re each devoting to the household. This feature took a lot of time and work, and is only for paid subscribers. So if you’re not paid, consider becoming paid today. You’ll get a ton of features like this, plus two extra newsletters a month.

And if you are paid, read on!