If you're a man whose partner doesn't want enough sex, here's what you need to know
If you're a man whose partner doesn't want enough sex, here's what you need to know
An open letter to all the men who seem to think women owe them sex
This week, I’ve spoken to more than a dozen women whose partners demand sex on a schedule. When these men don’t get sex, they pout, become aggressive and moody, or lash out at the woman. I’ve spoken to other women whose husbands think that denying them sex because of household chore inequality is tantamount to abuse. And two different men emailed me complaining that their partners were emotionally neglecting them by refusing to have sex.
The entitlement men feel to women’s bodies is truly stunning. In not one of the above scenarios did the man ever bother to wonder what he might be doing to make his partner not want sex. Each man just took for granted that, if his partner isn’t having sex with him as often as he likes, it’s her fault.
If your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you, it’s frustrating. Maybe your feelings are hurt. Maybe you worry about the death of the relationship. But almost always, lack of sexual desire is a harbinger of an underlying problem. If you’re a man whose partner doesn’t want sex, you are only going to get more sex by fixing whatever has gone wrong in your relationship.