My boyfriend won't commit. Should I leave or make him go to therapy?
A reader set a boundary with her boyfriend, and now wonders if she should enforce it.
A reader asks…
I have been dating someone for 3 months and I told him this was the time-limit for making a commitment. He told me that if we were in our 20's he wouldn't have a problem, however, we are both in our 40's and want children. He told me his reason for being unable to commit is that he feels grief over not being able to have his own kids with me and needs time to process it. I have accepted that it is unlikely that we will have our own kids and said he needed to be open to adoption from the beginning. I've been told that he is immature to be in his 40's and still holding on to the hope of having his own kids. I feel as though I've wasted my time. Should I tell him that if he wants to continue dating that he needs to see a therapist, or should I just leave?