My husband abuses one of our children, and favors the others: Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus
A reader wonders what to do about a partner who clearly dislikes one of their kids.
A reader asks…
My husband and I have 3 children. The oldest is incredibly bright and advanced for her age, very nuerodivergent. She is not bad. She's actually been one of the most perfect children I've ever seen. The problem is, my husband can't stand her.
He is so much nicer and more patient with our son and younger daughter(they're more "normal"/"easy"). He yells, threatens, teases and makes her cry every day, multiple times a day. She used to be a very positive, happy child. I can see it starting to wear her down, and she's started yelling at people. I've tried talking to him but all he does is ask her if she loves him and if she thinks he loves her. When she says "yes", he tells me everything is fine. If I can't get him to change, how can I protect her little heart? Divorce is out of the question, as I wouldn't be able to protect her as well if he had them half the time.