My husband food-shames our kids: Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus

A reader's kids are sneaking food thanks to her husband's chronic food-shaming.

A reader asks…

I'd love some advice on the subject of food.  Here's some context:

My husband goes on and on about what the kids eat - too much bread!  Too many sweets!  Not enough vegetables!

It absolutely does my head in, because I truly feel like it's a gross over-exaggeration.  Our kids are 13 and 15, healthy weights and, while there's always room for improvement, I rage a bit when he brings this up; especially when he brings it up to the kids!

Our kids will already sneak food, rather than eat it in front of him, for fear they will get judged or lectured.  I worry more about eating disorders from his snarky comments, than them not eating enough veggies!

I have told him if he's unhappy with things, then he can do the meal planning, shopping, preparing, cooking, lunchboxes, etc - but he "doesn't have time" for that. He also scoffs and says that he doesn't bother cooking because nobody will eat what he serves up anyway; which is kind of true (I have one very picky eater) but also, it's a bit of a cop out, yes?

I'm sure you have some words of wisdom - please hit me with them!

Cheers