My husband is finally stepping up since I asked for a divorce. Am I the asshole? Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus
A reader wonders if she should give her husband another chance.
A reader asks…
Two weeks ago I asked for a divorce after years of feeling like a single mum while married. Husband lashed out at first, verbally, saying I was emotionally barren and it's like hugging a corpse. Next day he did a 180 and has spent two weeks trying to reconcile by trying to be extra nice to me and the kids.
In the past 2 weeks he has stepped up as a parent and started doing all the things I was angry about him not doing.
I'm now really angry because if he can do it now why couldn't he do it before.
I've lost my interest in him as a partner. I don't find him attractive any more, but now he's being "nice" I feel like a colossal bitch.
Now I'm questioning myself about the divorce even though I want nothing more than to walk out the door.
Is this normal to feel so angry and unwilling to contemplate reconciliation?