My husband is only interested in porn, not sex. Feminist Advice Friday paid bonus

A reader's husband is obsessed with porn, but not with sex.

A reader asks…

What if a dude only wants to wank it to porn, and the sex is gone? Is scheduling sex coercion? Is saying, “hey, I need more intimacy and let’s fix this somehow, what do you need from me?” coercive? Because, well, that was the case and I guess that’s me if so.