Should I end my relationship with an underachieving partner? Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus
A reader worries she's wasted six years of her life on her partner.
A reader asks…
I have a thoughtful boyfriend (33), who is emotionally present, makes me feel important, and helps out with chores when visiting. He is also considerate of my two children, aged 12 and 15.
Despite being 14 years my junior, there are some challenges. He struggles with follow through on promises, especially concerning offered handyman work. Additionally, he has habits like smoking and drinking, and there isn’t much progress in terms of a career.
His weekend work schedule, as a bartender, also limits our ability to plan venturous activities. He hasn’t had the easiest life. There has been considerable trauma and abuse during his childhood. I appreciate his efforts; however, after six years, I’m questioning if I am investing my time wisely in this relationship. What are your thoughts?