Subscriber Chat: What do you want to see me write about next?
(plus talk about anything else you want)
Welcome to this month’s Subscriber Chat! My monthly subscriber chat is unique because it’s the only time I allow comments from anyone. And these comments won’t show up in your social media feeds, which means you can safely say whatever you want without your husband, mother-in-law, or boss seeing it. Feel free to comment anonymously.
This is the space to discuss whatever is on your mind, to ask for advice from the community, and to ask me anything.
Every month, I ask a starter question to get discussion going. But you don’t have to answer it! You can talk about anything at all that’s on your mind!
This month, I’m curious about what you would most like for me to write about next.
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Hi Zawn! Have to start with a BIG "i love your content so much thank you so much".
I am always hoping for more content about inequitable distributions of emotional labor in the relationship, situations of emotional unavailability and neglect, etc. I understand that much of your content is applicable to these issues. Still, I have had several experiences of being with men that do their fair share of work around the house, and even emotional labor for dependents, but simply refuse to do emotional work/connection re: the relationship, and use the fact that they are doing household/parenting labor to excuse their emotional unavailability to their partner. I know this is just another patriarchal trick and it's not our responsibility to head out on every wild goose chase we get sent on, but I feel there could be benefit from content focused exclusively on the ways men nope-out on emotional equality in relationship, even if they are checking the other boxes.
hi zawn! thank you for sharing of all of your knowledge, it has impacted more lives than you know!
i would like to see more articles about actually leaving the low quality men. im at the point where emotionally i feel ready to go but after years of conditioning i feel so much GUILT. is this the right decision? did I not give him enough chances? it's hard to get out of that mindset when you know on your end you have tried everything. i also feel like i am struggling with what to actually say, do I yet again rant about all the pain I feel or a clean cut goodbye? it's so daunting and overwhelming and honestly scary!