The arguments sexist men make on my page--and my responses
I'm sorry you don't like me, Jonathan, but I actually didn't ask you to speak to me, and don't care what you have to say. Yelling at me isn't going to get you my attention, either.
There are so very many angry men hanging out on my page. I wrote an open letter to them last year, in the hopes that it might help them with their many challenges. I guess, though, that their inadequacies are too immense, their shortcomings too myriad, for a single post to address.
They keep showing up. They keep being big mad about my insistence that women should not marry shitty men. They insist that this means I hate men, because I guess they cannot conceive of a man being anything but shitty. They get angry when I say men should be (and can be!) good fathers. They tell on themselves. If they really wanted nothing to do with feminist women then they wouldn’t spend so much time trying to get our attention.
Marriage benefits women, not men!
Why are you trying to convince women that marriage benefits them if you, a man, do not wish to get married and believe marriage is harmful to you?
Shouldn’t you be overjoyed that women agree with you, and increasingly want to avoid marriage?
Or could it be that you desire marriage, but don’t want to admit to its many benefits, because doing so would require you to treat women as people who actually matter?
If marriage were really so harmful to men, you wouldn’t spend so much time trying to convince women of this fact, because you wouldn’t care what women think and wouldn’t be actively seeking them out.
Go your own fucking way already.
Why do you hate men so much?
I don’t hate men. If you think that stating that men are capable of doing better is man hatred, then it’s actually you who hates men. Because only someone who thinks men are incompetent fools would object to the idea that men can do better than many currently are.
I hate abusive men. I hate lazy men. And a hit dog always hollers. Good men never object to my posts. Low-value ones always do.
You sound like Hitler!
(No, seriously, a dude actually said this to me).
Last I checked, Hitler never once spoke about the need for men to step up or step off. If you believe that demanding better of men is inherently misandrist, then you believe that men are incapable of better. Which means you believe men are innately inferior. And that is misandry.
Men get taken advantage of in divorce court!
Then don’t get divorced. Be a decent spouse so your partner doesn’t leave your sorry ass. If men really get taken advantage of in divorce court, then men should fear divorce and do anything they can do keep their wives happy.
But they don’t. Because family courts are biased against women, not men.
So why is it that so many men think otherwise?
It’s because men are accustomed to never being questioned. They believe they shouldn’t have to live up to any specific standard of parenting or living. So when they step into family court and have to answer a few questions, they see it as oppression. And when they have to pay a tiny fraction of the costs involved in keeping their children alive, they hate that, too.
They think they should get to have kids without having to be financially responsible for them, all while claiming to be alphas whose financial contributions are so valuable that they shouldn’t be required to do anything at home.
Women abuse men/are bad parents, too!
Women are only good for sex
Well, that’s a problem since men who say shit like this tend to be catastrophically bad in bed.
Here again, we see men projecting: men post this shit in response to my posts about how women don’t want to be with bad men. Like, ok. We’re talking about how we want nothing to do with you, and then you tell us you feel the same. But you’re mad? Protest too much, much?
You’re fat/ugly/have hit the wall
Here’s the fun thing about women:
Women who bring something to the table—who are attractive, or brilliant, or talented, or charming, or who make good money, or all of the above—demand more of men because they can.
They don’t want you.
So you respond by telling them they’re ugly.
This is because men think that what women fear most is not having men fawn all over them. But actually, it’s men who fear not being attractive to women. Stop projecting. Women aren’t interested in you, so telling us you’re not interested in us is…puzzling.
But also, women don’t owe you attractiveness. I know this comes as a shock, perhaps a devastating blow even. Women’s opinions matter even if you don’t perceive them as attractive. Women can still have power over you—as your boss, as your mother, as a random woman on the Internet you can’t stop thinking about and harassing—even if you don’t think they’re attractive.
No one cares about your opinion, you little troll.
Good luck being alone with your cats!
Cats at least groom themselves, which is more than I can say for the men who have so little of value to do that they yell at strangers on the Internet.
You can ban me, but I’ll just create a new profile/send my friends!
Nothing says, “high value man with a great life” like creating multiple accounts to yell at a woman who isn’t going to read what you say anyway.
Why are you shutting down dissent? FREE SPEECH!
No one wants to hear what you have to say. Women don’t have to give you their platform. It’s a free market and all, and no one is interested in what you have to say, snowflake.
This is really about men being mad when women have more power, more readers, more social capital than they do. Rather than building their own audience, they decide to yell at a woman’s. They can’t fathom a world in which no one thinks what they have to say is interesting and worthwhile, so having their comments removed feels like an act of war.
I encourage these men to keep posting. Spend lots of time on my page! Spend hours! I’ll keep deleting your comments. It’s a great system for ensuring no one gets to hear you.
Men and women are just different; gender differences are real
Uh huh. Ok. Please point to the specific genetic variant, exclusive to the y chromosome, that codes for incompetence, laziness, needing more sleep, needing more time to play video games, and sucking in bed.
Also, if men are really naturally bad at all the things they claim to be bad at, then they are uniquely unqualified for any position of leadership or power. So if men and women are really innately different, and those innate differences render men incapable of caring for children or being decent spouses (which require skills like executive functioning, creative problem-solving, research, critical thinking, leadership, time management, stress under pressure, high energy, and more), then we need to act quickly to remove these incompetent buffoons from positions of power.
Women are naturally better at parenting/nurturing
Cool! So women should get sole custody of their kids in divorces, right?
If men are naturally incapable of being good parents, and if their main job is that of paycheck, then it’s just biology that men should pay large sums to women while women do all of the parenting after divorce, right?
Well women are being unfair if they can’t do car maintenance or mow the grass
Yes, because a task done a few times a year or a few times a month is definitely the same as a task done multiple times a day, or a task necessary to the ongoing survival of small children.
You sure sound angry!
Yup! You scared?
A lot of sexist men think that calling women angry is the ultimate insult. But these are the same people who think that men’s anger is inherently rational and a sign of strength. They are incapable of thinking about women using the same rules they apply to men because they are deficient in basic thinking skills.
I’m just joking!
If something is funny, you usually don’t have to tell people that. Try harder to be funny, I guess?
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