The Weapons Men Use in Fights: "You're never satisfied with anything!"

A new bonus feature for paid subscribers: How men weaponize guilt to avoid criticism

If you’re not used to seeing me in your inbox on Tuesday, this is a new feature for paid subscribers. We need to understand how men use political dynamics in personal arguments, and how the experiences you have in your home are likely identical to the experiences other women are having. Men have internalized a set of harmful values, and then weaponize them against their female partners. Understanding this dynamic is the first step toward disrupting it.

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How Sexist Men Weaponize “You’re Never Satisfied With Anything!”

Something a lot of heterosexual men who are not doing their fair share say to their partners:

“You’re never satisfied with anything I do!”

The subtext (or overtly stated threat) is often, “So I might as well not do anything at all.”

The argument suddenly shifts, from her legitimate criticism to his attempts to escape blame and seek praise.

This is a tool for winning arguments and silencing legitimate criticism. Here’s what you need to know about it: