Does it matter if abuse is unintentional? Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus
A reader wonders if accidental abuse falls into a different category.
A reader asks…
I continue to struggle with acceptance of my past situation, I think partly because in the cyclical nature of abuse, it never felt that way and upon reflection I still find it hard to notice an intentional cyclical pattern.
You recently reposted an article and this quote stuck with me:
"…not all abusers set out deliberately to undermine and harm their victims. This doesn’t negate the impact of the abuse."
And I was wondering if you had any additional content on perhaps abuse that is not "deliberate?" I know that the end result is the same and not okay. And I'm not sure if this even makes sense, but I go in circles in my head trying to understand why this happened and comparing deliberate actions/choices versus unintentional.
I have been reading past articles as I can and have picked up a few books by Lundy Bancroft, but I thought I would ask here.