I like what you said about mental health, trauma and low self-esteem. It's true, these things all go together, and some women just lack a strong, sturdy, stable sense of self, and because of that, they are easily drawn to men like this. Because a man like gives them the stability and security that their souls are craving, but they don't turn out to be satisfying and fulfilling relationships in the long run.
And then when they try to leave those relationships or call out the man for his behavior she gets labeled as the "crazy one." Or, "well my wife just has mental health issues."
Yes, and that's why she ended up with someone like you.
As a man of a certain age married for 30 years who occasionally teaches at a university I have some indirect insight into this. If a young man asks me for advice, I tell them to follow “Rule #1.”
Rule #1 is simple. If you follow Rule #1, I explain, you will vault ahead of most of the competition and give yourself a chance at a meaningful relationship.
“Rule #1” is don’t be an asshole.
It seems obvious but most men can’t do it because they have been told since boyhood that it is “masculine” to lie to women, emotionally abuse women, even assault women, because that’s what TV and movies say men do. So, I explain, if you can manage to overcome your programming and treat a potential romantic partner with honesty and basic respect you will be fine.
If your male buddies mock you being “whipped,” etc., that means you are doing well. It means the assholes sense you are not one of them and seek to shame you back into the ranks of assholedom.
Another thing I've seen these men do when their partners are technically their ideal (and always available to them) - they get bored and cheat.
I like what you said about mental health, trauma and low self-esteem. It's true, these things all go together, and some women just lack a strong, sturdy, stable sense of self, and because of that, they are easily drawn to men like this. Because a man like gives them the stability and security that their souls are craving, but they don't turn out to be satisfying and fulfilling relationships in the long run.
And then when they try to leave those relationships or call out the man for his behavior she gets labeled as the "crazy one." Or, "well my wife just has mental health issues."
Yes, and that's why she ended up with someone like you.
As a man of a certain age married for 30 years who occasionally teaches at a university I have some indirect insight into this. If a young man asks me for advice, I tell them to follow “Rule #1.”
Rule #1 is simple. If you follow Rule #1, I explain, you will vault ahead of most of the competition and give yourself a chance at a meaningful relationship.
“Rule #1” is don’t be an asshole.
It seems obvious but most men can’t do it because they have been told since boyhood that it is “masculine” to lie to women, emotionally abuse women, even assault women, because that’s what TV and movies say men do. So, I explain, if you can manage to overcome your programming and treat a potential romantic partner with honesty and basic respect you will be fine.
If your male buddies mock you being “whipped,” etc., that means you are doing well. It means the assholes sense you are not one of them and seek to shame you back into the ranks of assholedom.
The idea that attractive, accomplished men won't fall for the red pill ideology in the first place is perfectly poignant.