I like what you said about mental health, trauma and low self-esteem. It's true, these things all go together, and some women just lack a strong, sturdy, stable sense of self, and because of that, they are easily drawn to men like this. Because a man like gives them the stability and security that their souls are craving, but they don't turn out to be satisfying and fulfilling relationships in the long run.
And then when they try to leave those relationships or call out the man for his behavior she gets labeled as the "crazy one." Or, "well my wife just has mental health issues."
Yes, and that's why she ended up with someone like you.
As a man of a certain age married for 30 years who occasionally teaches at a university I have some indirect insight into this. If a young man asks me for advice, I tell them to follow “Rule #1.”
Rule #1 is simple. If you follow Rule #1, I explain, you will vault ahead of most of the competition and give yourself a chance at a meaningful relationship.
“Rule #1” is don’t be an asshole.
It seems obvious but most men can’t do it because they have been told since boyhood that it is “masculine” to lie to women, emotionally abuse women, even assault women, because that’s what TV and movies say men do. So, I explain, if you can manage to overcome your programming and treat a potential romantic partner with honesty and basic respect you will be fine.
If your male buddies mock you being “whipped,” etc., that means you are doing well. It means the assholes sense you are not one of them and seek to shame you back into the ranks of assholedom.
Another thing I've seen these men do when their partners are technically their ideal (and always available to them) - they get bored and cheat.
I like what you said about mental health, trauma and low self-esteem. It's true, these things all go together, and some women just lack a strong, sturdy, stable sense of self, and because of that, they are easily drawn to men like this. Because a man like gives them the stability and security that their souls are craving, but they don't turn out to be satisfying and fulfilling relationships in the long run.
And then when they try to leave those relationships or call out the man for his behavior she gets labeled as the "crazy one." Or, "well my wife just has mental health issues."
Yes, and that's why she ended up with someone like you.
As a man of a certain age married for 30 years who occasionally teaches at a university I have some indirect insight into this. If a young man asks me for advice, I tell them to follow “Rule #1.”
Rule #1 is simple. If you follow Rule #1, I explain, you will vault ahead of most of the competition and give yourself a chance at a meaningful relationship.
“Rule #1” is don’t be an asshole.
It seems obvious but most men can’t do it because they have been told since boyhood that it is “masculine” to lie to women, emotionally abuse women, even assault women, because that’s what TV and movies say men do. So, I explain, if you can manage to overcome your programming and treat a potential romantic partner with honesty and basic respect you will be fine.
If your male buddies mock you being “whipped,” etc., that means you are doing well. It means the assholes sense you are not one of them and seek to shame you back into the ranks of assholedom.
The idea that attractive, accomplished men won't fall for the red pill ideology in the first place is perfectly poignant.
Everything reminds me of a song…
This article reminds me of the opening song titled ‘BDE’ (Big Dick Energy) on the new MINISTRY album ‘Hopium for the Masses’
Lyrics:
So what was once forbidden becomes fringe, and what was fringe becomes mainstream
This is a nightmare
Big dick energy
Toxic misogyny, violence
Toxic misogyny, violence
Toxic misogyny
Using, using violence
Toxic misogyny, violence
Toxic misogyny, violence
Toxic misogyny
This is a nightmare
Horny little boys full of hormones and hate
Waging war on women 'cause they can't get a date
Stockpiling their weapons 'cause they think their dicks get bigger
Waiting for the chance to finally pull the fucking trigger
Hating what you cannot have
Killing what you cannot be
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
No one can justify their toxic behavior
(Fuck, fuck)
Big dick energy
Manosphere, manosphere
It comes down to controlling women's bodies
It's the birth rates, birth rates
Let me give you a hint, I'm not just a vagina
Big dick energy
Toxic little man with the toxic little plan
Fuck 'em all, kill em all, both if you can
There's no relief in sight from the crazy far right
They'll never get to fuck, so they just kill out of spite
Hating what you cannot have
Killing what you cannot be
Well, I don't think so
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
No one can justify their toxic behavior
(Fuck, fuck)
Big dick energy
Controlling women's bodies
Insecurity
Controlling women's bodies
Using, using violence, violence
They're all focused on the idea of-
Slaughter, slaughter, slaughter, slaughter
(Slaughter) Sorry that you can't get laid
(Slaughter) Big dick masquerade
(Slaughter) Tough guys on parade
(Slaughter) Why you actin' so afraid?
(Slaughter) Toxic masculinity
(Slaughter) Toxic ideology
(Slaughter) Toxic misogyny
Big dick energy
Big dick energy
You don't hate me, you hate yourself
I'm not gonna have your baby, you fucking loser
Big dick energy
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
(Fuck, fuck, fuck)
Big dick energy
(Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck) No one can justify their toxic behavior
(Fuck, fuck) Big dick energy
(Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck) Who trust a guy whose gun is his savior?
(Fuck, fuck) Big dick energy