Is dating someone who's 90% of the way there enough? Feminist Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus

A reader wonders how much energy to expend on a potentially good relationship.

I’ve read a lot of your content on how all men internalize patriarchy and then engage in sexist behavior. So my question is: How can I tell when a man is really trying to do better, and is likely to succeed in doing so, versus when it’s just weaponized incompetence/buying time/stringing me along? If I meet a guy who’s 90% of the way there, is it worth working to get him the rest of the way there?

I know that just telling women to give men a chance is harmful and misogynistic, but I also don’t want to miss out on a potentially good relationship.

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