Thank you so much for this beautiful clarity. My wondering is, some accommodations and burdens are inescapable since I don't want to leave them alone together. So I continue to do every night wake for our three little kids, every going to bed routine and every early morning wake up. His food and washing are the least of the burden. I pretty much haven't slept a solid 3hrs in 5 years. They love him so much. I feel like if he dwells in the study, emerging as he does, we could keep him that way. But what life is that for him and what poor male & relationship role modelling is it. I have been in this suspended reality all this time. How long till those factors slide from having their beloved dad around vs seeing our absent interactions and my veiled resentment?
Thank you so much for this beautiful clarity. My wondering is, some accommodations and burdens are inescapable since I don't want to leave them alone together. So I continue to do every night wake for our three little kids, every going to bed routine and every early morning wake up. His food and washing are the least of the burden. I pretty much haven't slept a solid 3hrs in 5 years. They love him so much. I feel like if he dwells in the study, emerging as he does, we could keep him that way. But what life is that for him and what poor male & relationship role modelling is it. I have been in this suspended reality all this time. How long till those factors slide from having their beloved dad around vs seeing our absent interactions and my veiled resentment?