Subscriber chat: Thanksgiving Support + Heterosexual men and their weird relationship with sex.
Your monthly chance to discuss whatever you want. Plus, a discount on paid membership, and a poll about men and sex.
Welcome to this month’s Subscriber Chat! My monthly subscriber chat is unique because it’s the only time I allow comments from anyone. And these comments won’t show up in your social media feeds, which means you can safely say whatever you want without your husband, mother-in-law, or boss seeing it. Feel free to comment anonymously.
This is the space to discuss whatever is on your mind, to ask for advice from the community, and to ask me anything. Consider this an AMA, where no questions are off limits.
This is a great place to seek Thanksgiving (if you’re in the US)/National Day of Mourning/National Day of Ingratitude for Domestic Labor support, so feel free to share the horrors unfolding in your household in the comments.
Every month, I ask a starter question to get discussion going. But you don’t have to answer it! You can talk about anything at all that’s on your mind! This month, I’d like to hear about your experiences with male sexual entitlement, as well as whether there’s anything related to this topic you would like me to write more about.
I’m also including a poll that I started in the Liberating Motherhood support group, so if you’ve already taken it there, please don’t take it again! I’ll be using the results in an upcoming article. Also please stop emailing complaints about the poll. I don't have the ability to give the option for multiple answers or free choice, but you can absolutely add answers in the comments. Additionally, this is a poll specifically about dysfunctional responses to sex so I've only provided the responses readers tell me are the most common—not healthy responses, and not all possible responses.
I've based the suggested answers on the most common tactics women have shared with me. If you are not a cisgender male, and your most recent male partner has tried to persuade you to have sex you don't want to have, this poll is for you. If your partner uses additional strategies, please add them in the comments! I selected these specific strategies because they are the weirdest and most aggressive, and also unfortunately among the most common.
This is the only chance unpaid subscribers have to comment; comments are usually closed to unpaid subscribers to maintain a safe space.
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So readers, what’s on your mind? Share whatever you want in the comments.
There seems to be an alternative missing there "Acts like an adult and suggests a game of chess instead" (or lets you sleep or moves on)
Coming to say that we travelled states to families house. I packed everything and he packed nothing and took the kids and left and called me (we took separate cars) and asked me what was taking so long.
Happy Thanksgiving!