The Feminist Advice Friday question I keep getting--and what it tells me about the state of marriage
It seems every woman worries she might deserve her husband's shitty treatment, and every man thinks he's not like the men I describe.
I can’t answer 90% of the Feminist Advice Friday questions I receive. It’s not because I’m overworked or I don’t care. It’s because the questions are all the same. I think we can learn a lot about patriarchy by exploring the fact that I keep talking about the same issue, keep getting the same questions about it, and yet women still keep thinking they might deserve inequality.
Here’s a sketch of the question:
I do more than 70% of the houseold labor, even though we both work (or if she doesn’t work, she does 100%, plus a ton of extra labor, and never gets a break on weekends or holidays). But my husband [insert one of many bullshit excuses].
He also [insert random acts of emotional abuse and bad parenting].
Is this fair? Am I expecting too much? Is it time to try couples counseling? I’m desperate.
Siiiigh.