I read Fair Play, and then tried to read Fed Up, but stopped reading it a few chapters in. Both books annoyed the shit out of me because they spent way too much time praising their husbands for everything they did and how much they contributed when they weren’t actually doing anything or contributing much at all. And why do we have to co…
I read Fair Play, and then tried to read Fed Up, but stopped reading it a few chapters in. Both books annoyed the shit out of me because they spent way too much time praising their husbands for everything they did and how much they contributed when they weren’t actually doing anything or contributing much at all. And why do we have to constantly praise and complement men for doing the absolute bare minimum? Also fair play plays into the tropes about maternal gatekeeping and “women’s unreasonably high standards” way too much. Anyway, I broached the subject with my (soon to be ex) husband, knowing that it wouldn’t really go anywhere, but figuring I would give it one last shot. I brought up the inequity in our relationship countless times over the years, and he never listened, so I knew it wouldn’t be any different this time, and of course it wasn’t. He was absolutely incredulous that I would even suggest such a thing! And of course responded with a bunch of emotional and verbal abuse. We separated a short time afterwards. Men don’t want to change. This system works really well for them.
I read Fair Play, and then tried to read Fed Up, but stopped reading it a few chapters in. Both books annoyed the shit out of me because they spent way too much time praising their husbands for everything they did and how much they contributed when they weren’t actually doing anything or contributing much at all. And why do we have to constantly praise and complement men for doing the absolute bare minimum? Also fair play plays into the tropes about maternal gatekeeping and “women’s unreasonably high standards” way too much. Anyway, I broached the subject with my (soon to be ex) husband, knowing that it wouldn’t really go anywhere, but figuring I would give it one last shot. I brought up the inequity in our relationship countless times over the years, and he never listened, so I knew it wouldn’t be any different this time, and of course it wasn’t. He was absolutely incredulous that I would even suggest such a thing! And of course responded with a bunch of emotional and verbal abuse. We separated a short time afterwards. Men don’t want to change. This system works really well for them.
I'm so sorry