Are you a high value man?
In shocking news, to be 'high value,' you have to contribute actual value to a woman's life.
For some reason, men have decided that they should take advice on attracting women from a dead divorced dude, a failed rapper, and a criminal who allegedly needs to rape women and keep them captive to get them to be with him. They joyfully swallow these men’s emissions while ignoring the input of the women all around them.
To incels, red pillers, and manosphere blowhards, the experts on what makes men attractive are men. It’s clear to me that homoeroticism, that desperately seeking the approval of men, are both at the center of this bizarre movement.
These men claim they want sex with women, while ignoring all the maneuvers that could get them sex. They talk over women about what women want, drawing solely on the input of men whom most women despise. At the center of all this nonsense is the notion of the high value man. These men believe that, if you imitate them by adopting behaviors most women find repulsive, you become a high value man to whom women will flock. As I’ve written before, men who follow the prescriptions of the manosphere are of very low value to actual women—though maybe the bros they worship would want to fuck them.
So what actually makes a man high value? Some attributes are unique to each woman since—shocker!—women are individual human beings who don’t all want the same thing. So let’s look at the two things manosphere losers value most—being a protector and provider—and talk about what they really mean to a high value man.
Being a provider
Being a provider does not just mean earning money, since in a capitalist society, this is something literally everyone has to do. Your job is not impressive magic. No one cares. Having a job does not entitle you to control a woman, either.
If you expect for your partner to stay home and tend to the house, you must meet all of the following criteria to be a provider:
You must not financially control her, or deny her access to basic needs or simple luxuries.
Her financial quality of life must be better than it was when she was single. you must be able to give her more than she can give herself.
You must be able to fully financially support all of your children’s needs. This includes therapy, quality childcare, enriching lessons, and anything else that pops up.
If you cannot or will not do these things, you’re not contributing and substantive value.
But what if you’re not a regressive loser, and you don’t think the only acceptable relationships involve stay at home wives? Well, being a provider is about more than money. To be a high value man, regardless of whether your spouse works, you must also provide all of the following:
You must listen to and meet her needs. Don’t even think about skipping Mother’s Day because “you’re not my mother.”
You must fully support and participate in the lives of your children. If she gets less downtime than you, then you bring zero value to her life.
You must provide her with a quality sex life that involves more than pumping and dumping.
You must provide her with an emotionally and physically safe environment.
You must provide your children with high quality parenting. That means more than just half assing it for 10 minutes a day.
You must not trash your shared home by constantly making a mess, breaking her things, or otherwise making your home life less pleasant.
You must provide more domestic labor than she would have access to as a single person.
You must provide her with meaningful companionship, and with the reassurance that you always have her back.
Most men can’t clear a single one of these bars, and then wonder why their wives are so eager to leave them.
Being a protector
Being a protector does not mean having a gun and fists. You have to actually, you know, protect your partner. This means offering them the protection they want and need—not jealously guarding them from other relationships as if you are a petulant five-year-old.
Here are the things good protectors do:
They set clear boundaries with friends and family to prevent mistreatment of their partner.
They prioritize their partner over all other people.
They never mistreat their children or their partner.
They protect their partner from misogyny by working on their own internalized beliefs.
They protect their partner from external misogyny by always pushing back on abuse from others.
They nurture a safe and happy home life that acts as a respite from the rest of the world.
These things aren’t easy to do. They involve more than just depositing a paycheck into a bank account and masturbating to Andrew Tate’s voice.
If they were easy, they wouldn’t have much value.
Being a high value man is hard. Which is why your shitty ass husband probably isn’t one. He’d rather spend his time seeking the respect of men like Andrew Tate, who will never even talk to him, than earning the love of his partner.
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“They joyfully swallow these men’s emissions”
The fucking pointed condescension dripping (heh) from you is a thing of beauty 🤩