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Signs you might be a low value man
The biggest sign might be that Andrew Tate told you you're a high value man.
High-value man.
It’s the obsession of Andrew Tate, his weak-breed followers, and a myriad of manosphere influencers, each of whom asserts that their unique cocktail of pathologies, deficiencies, and dysfunction is the exact recipe for high-value status. And what all of these men share in common is the absolute obsession with what other men think.
They tell men over and over (and over) that what renders them a high-value man, and therefore the sort of man women will desire, is what other men think. “What can I do to please other men?” they want their followers to ask.
Sounds like simple homoeroticism to me, bro.
What actually makes a man high-value in a relationship with a woman?
It’s pretty simple: bringing additional value beyond what she would get being single, while also not doing anything to make her life worse. To be high-value, you have to offer, you know, actual fucking value.
Because you’re not fucking Andrew Tate, or your bros, or the manosphere. You’re not raising kids with Kevin Samuels. So what matters is not their assessment. What matters is how the person you’re with feels about the value you offer.
And after surveying thousands of women, let me tell you: women are very clear with what they want, and it’s nothing even remotely resembling what Andrew Tate says they should want. Most men are not bringing much of value to their relationships, and instead are destroying their partners’ lives. Women, meanwhile, bring significant value.
Married men earn more, live longer, and are happier. Because of their partners. Marriage is inherently high value for men and inherently risky for women. So remember that next time you think just showing up with a dick is enough to offer value.
Here are some signs you’re almost certainly a low-value man:
You have ever insulted your partner’s body. If you don’t like her body, then why are you with her? If you do like it, why would you insult it?
You are grossed out by the routine functions of women’s bodies. You think periods are gross. You don’t like vaginas, or are disgusted by pubic hair. You think childbirth is disgusting. Men who find women’s bodies repulsive are not actually heterosexual, and do not bring value to sex or their relationships.
You call your partner names. Why would you be with someone whom you want to insult? If you do want to be with her, why would you do something that makes her life worse?
You value the opinions of your bros, or of random men you’ve never met, over the opinions of your partner.
You allow your family to mistreat your partner.
You did not support your partner when she was giving birth to your child, or in the immediate postpartum period. Here’s what it means to be supportive. Men who damage women in their most vulnerable moments have no value at all. If she gets depression, it’s your fucking fault.
You have ever hit your partner or your children.
You break things when you are angry because you’re too much of a baby to control your emotions.
You don’t take care of your partner when she is sick, but you expect her to take care of you.
You expect a standard of grooming from your partner that you do not follow.
You have poor hygiene.
You don’t regularly apologize and make amends.
You give your partner the silent treatment.
You get more free time than your partner.
You are not as good of a parent as your partner. See here to learn what being a good parent actually means.
You are not able to financially support yourself.
Your partner gets less leisure time or sleep than you do because of the work you expect her to do—parenting, cleaning, cooking, etc.
You often relax while your partner parents, cleans, or does other tasks.
You do not regularly perform oral sex on your partner.
You demand sex that does not cause your partner to orgasm.
You believe that working for pay entitles you to do little or nothing around the house.
You guilt or threaten your partner into having sex with you.
You believe women are less logical or intelligent than men.
You respond to your partner’s complaints with defensiveness
Readers: What charactertistics would you add to this list? What makes a low-value man?
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Your addiction to weed, alcohol, porn, etc., takes precedent over your partner.
You think that earning more money than your partner entitless you to disparage her contributions to your family