Do heterosexual men actually want sex? Or do they just want to complain about it?
When sex requires work, men would rather go without.
I recently wrote about the myth that men show love by having and desiring sex. I talked about the methods readers tell me their husbands use to try to get them interested in sex. Topping the list were crying, whining, pouting, sulking, giving her the silent treatment when she says no, and initiating sexual acts he knows she hates, like bringing home a 12” dildo.
Heterosexual men are really not ok.
They keep emailing me about their lacking sex lives, too. How they’re being abused because they don’t get enough sex. How they think they’re going to get prostate cancer, or their balls are going to fall off. I tell them all the same thing: Women are very clear about what they want sexually, and what men can do to get more sex. We’ve been collectively shouting it from the rooftops for generations, and the individual women I talk to have spent a ton of time telling their partners what they need.
Make sex worth having. Don’t pump and dump. Don’t be an asshole outside of the bedroom. Stop whining when you don’t get sex.
And yet.
They continue to listen to Andrew Tate and Reddit, because apparently they’ve collectively decided that they’re much more interested in listening to men about sex than women.
I grow increasingly convinced that men don’t actually want sex at all. They just want to whine about it, so they can use their sexless relationship as an excuse for more bullshit.
Seriously: Do men actually like sex with women? When the recipe for getting it is everywhere, and they ignore it in favor of gleefully swallowing Red Pill emissions, it’s clear that the answer is no.
These men don’t actually want mutually satisfying sex. In fact, they’d rather give up sex altogether than put in the work necessary to have a decent sex life. Why is that?