I'm in the midst of dealing with this. It's up to me to prove why my uninvolved-until-now, abusive, autistic husband shouldn't get 50% custody. Even though I can prove how uninvolved he's been up to now. Even though he has an autism diagnosis. Even though we have years of couples therapy dealing with behaviour issues and parenting issues connected to his diagnosis. I AM SO LIVID. The system needs to change.
Solidarity! I'm in the middle of divorcing an autistic man who thinks the best idea for custody is to split my daughters up and they live across the country from each other. They are 2 and 7 years old. Insane. Luckily, my state won't allow this. I'm not sure what will happen with child support. Good luck with your jerk.
Thank you, a lot of discussions about autism in parents tend to miss how moms with autism are often abused by their neurotypical partners for being autistic.
Ughhhhhhh this is disgusting. I love many autistic people of both genders. Teach your daughters not to choose ABUSIVE men. Stop using autistic as a slur.
"The average father pays $5,181 in average annual support—$431.75 per month, comprising about 9% of the average father’s income. "
The only guy I knew paying child support was easily paying half his paycheck, about $600 per week from his middling government job of $60,000. This was a working class income in NYC. This was over ten years ago. Maybe things have changed and become worse. I wonder why this is.
That guy was clearly paying a lot of back child support OR had too many children (that he couldn't afford). He could've requested a reduction if it was really that skewed.
Wondering if anyone has a more recent statistic for this: " Twenty-seven percent of fathers completely abandon their children after divorce." The report linked here is from 2011. Thank you!
I wouldn't be surprised if it were higher. I couldn't count the kids + adult childres of fathers who did exactly this, even if I had four hands.
What's REALLY ballsy is when those dad's reach out to adult daughters (always daughters) once they're old & sick & they've heard thru the grapevine that the child they abandoned is successful now.
BurnnBougie on YouTube talks abt it frequently...says they're looking for a "nurse with a purse" and I agree.
It is so easy to believe the mainstream narrative, it took divorce lawyers who are more aware and conscious than an average person 10 years to realize the reality. I love the debunking with facts and sources.
How do divorced mothers create a little more equality with the custody, child support, and continued emotional/invisible labor they continue to do at disproportionate rates??
I'm in the midst of dealing with this. It's up to me to prove why my uninvolved-until-now, abusive, autistic husband shouldn't get 50% custody. Even though I can prove how uninvolved he's been up to now. Even though he has an autism diagnosis. Even though we have years of couples therapy dealing with behaviour issues and parenting issues connected to his diagnosis. I AM SO LIVID. The system needs to change.
Solidarity! I'm in the middle of divorcing an autistic man who thinks the best idea for custody is to split my daughters up and they live across the country from each other. They are 2 and 7 years old. Insane. Luckily, my state won't allow this. I'm not sure what will happen with child support. Good luck with your jerk.
Throwing around a diagnosis as a slur isn't helpful.
So sorry..autistic dads are sooo difficult..and yet somehow people keep choosing them. We need to STOP doing so! Teach your girls NOT to!
The problem is not autism. It's men pretending autism is the reason for abuse. Anti-autistic bias is not acceptable on this page.
Thank you, a lot of discussions about autism in parents tend to miss how moms with autism are often abused by their neurotypical partners for being autistic.
Ughhhhhhh this is disgusting. I love many autistic people of both genders. Teach your daughters not to choose ABUSIVE men. Stop using autistic as a slur.
"The average father pays $5,181 in average annual support—$431.75 per month, comprising about 9% of the average father’s income. "
The only guy I knew paying child support was easily paying half his paycheck, about $600 per week from his middling government job of $60,000. This was a working class income in NYC. This was over ten years ago. Maybe things have changed and become worse. I wonder why this is.
That guy was clearly paying a lot of back child support OR had too many children (that he couldn't afford). He could've requested a reduction if it was really that skewed.
Labor-diggers...
Wondering if anyone has a more recent statistic for this: " Twenty-seven percent of fathers completely abandon their children after divorce." The report linked here is from 2011. Thank you!
I wouldn't be surprised if it were higher. I couldn't count the kids + adult childres of fathers who did exactly this, even if I had four hands.
What's REALLY ballsy is when those dad's reach out to adult daughters (always daughters) once they're old & sick & they've heard thru the grapevine that the child they abandoned is successful now.
BurnnBougie on YouTube talks abt it frequently...says they're looking for a "nurse with a purse" and I agree.
It is so easy to believe the mainstream narrative, it took divorce lawyers who are more aware and conscious than an average person 10 years to realize the reality. I love the debunking with facts and sources.
How do divorced mothers create a little more equality with the custody, child support, and continued emotional/invisible labor they continue to do at disproportionate rates??