The minute he steps inside the door, he’s a parent in the house, just like mum. Parent duties call, household duties call, all sorts of sharing of emotional labour, physical labour and many more necessary things that make up a family.
Doesn’t go to parent teacher interviews by you (mum) arrange them and show up? Why not? Is his work more important than your joint children?
I asked my ex H this recently. He’s been doing this shit since we had our first child in 2011. We separated in mid 2017, a year after our second child was born.
A current issue … He never shows up for parent/teacher meetings. I questioned him, as above, and ripped him a new one, stating clearly that I’m neither his wife or secretary and that he needs to be proactively involved with making and attending appointments and all other parenting duties if his kids take priority, as he proudly proclaims whilst doing the complete fucking opposite.
My ex was all on board with a stay at home mom, and homeschooling, until I left him and apparently then I was retroactively a freeloader. It was incredibly affirming that the state assessed child support in an amount that was actually enough to live on, albeit very frugally.
The minute he steps inside the door, he’s a parent in the house, just like mum. Parent duties call, household duties call, all sorts of sharing of emotional labour, physical labour and many more necessary things that make up a family.
Doesn’t go to parent teacher interviews by you (mum) arrange them and show up? Why not? Is his work more important than your joint children?
I asked my ex H this recently. He’s been doing this shit since we had our first child in 2011. We separated in mid 2017, a year after our second child was born.
A current issue … He never shows up for parent/teacher meetings. I questioned him, as above, and ripped him a new one, stating clearly that I’m neither his wife or secretary and that he needs to be proactively involved with making and attending appointments and all other parenting duties if his kids take priority, as he proudly proclaims whilst doing the complete fucking opposite.
The level of doesn’t give a fuck *really* is high with men.
My ex was all on board with a stay at home mom, and homeschooling, until I left him and apparently then I was retroactively a freeloader. It was incredibly affirming that the state assessed child support in an amount that was actually enough to live on, albeit very frugally.