I honestly don't understand this (not what was written here but what I am about to write). There was a post on social media about the worst thing a woman can say to a man is not 'no' it's laughing at him. I commented that I had heard that most men's biggest fear was being laughed at while most women's biggest fear was being murdered but ya keep complaining about being laughed at. Got a few women who agreed with me and then a bunch of men who came on to say that they would rather be punched in the face than laughed at. I probably shouldn't but I eventually deleted my comment because it was too painful to see all these men miss the point and then defend themselves in such a weird way. Do they seriously not get being punched is not the same as being murdered? Do they not get that we are in fear almost everywhere we go? Or they just don't care yet they really do want us to care about them being laughed at? Please someone make this make sense!
One of the craziest realizations of my life was finding out that what men actually fear is being rejected by women (and by women they mean hot, young women, other women do not exist in their minds). The only thing husbands fear from their wives is being left. They project this desperation onto women and sadly women believe it. The desperate, sad, lonely, childless, “afraid to die alone” individual with too many animals / possessions and no connections to the community is a man, not a woman. Women are the ones who call, and write the cards, remember the birthdays, do the little favors and obeisances that build and maintain relationships.
As a function of my politics I know many women who can’t stand men. They go about their lives without interpersonal and sometimes even economic and cultural contact with men. They don’t bother informing men: hey I don’t want to be around you. Men come and tell us that they are going “their own way” (to sue their ex wives again is really where they’re going) because they think it will hurt our feelings, because our romantic rejection is the only thing we do that hurts them. They don’t understand that they are dangerous nuisances to us and their attention makes our lives worse.
Also divorce has a limited impact on men financially, while it generally financially devastates women. But women are despite being poorer, happier than men after divorce. If a divorced man has children he also retains a “father benefit” because fathers make more money than childless men (and all women). Men are in no way disadvantaged by society, everything is set up to benefit them (relative to women of their same station) no matter what circumstances they find themselves in. Men’s beef with divorce is that they lose the possessor status that bumps them up the social hierarchy of men. They lose control and ownership of a woman and her children, and that doesn’t seem fair to them. They have to continue to pay for objects they can’t control and use, and they aren’t accustomed to personal sacrifice (with no potential for glory) or inconvenience. A woman’s earning and achievement potential is severely curtailed by having children, and she just has to live with it from her early twenties to the end of her life. Men can’t stand the thought of paying $400 a month for 18 years (out of a 70-90 year lifespan) with the benefit of having passed on their DNA, with the earning bump from father bias and being relieved of virtually all responsibility relating to care of their offspring which allows them to achieve in areas actually valued by society. Life honestly can’t be made easier for men relative to women, but they have these little childish fits anyway, and a handful of them go on to commit felonies about it.
I honestly don't understand this (not what was written here but what I am about to write). There was a post on social media about the worst thing a woman can say to a man is not 'no' it's laughing at him. I commented that I had heard that most men's biggest fear was being laughed at while most women's biggest fear was being murdered but ya keep complaining about being laughed at. Got a few women who agreed with me and then a bunch of men who came on to say that they would rather be punched in the face than laughed at. I probably shouldn't but I eventually deleted my comment because it was too painful to see all these men miss the point and then defend themselves in such a weird way. Do they seriously not get being punched is not the same as being murdered? Do they not get that we are in fear almost everywhere we go? Or they just don't care yet they really do want us to care about them being laughed at? Please someone make this make sense!
One of the craziest realizations of my life was finding out that what men actually fear is being rejected by women (and by women they mean hot, young women, other women do not exist in their minds). The only thing husbands fear from their wives is being left. They project this desperation onto women and sadly women believe it. The desperate, sad, lonely, childless, “afraid to die alone” individual with too many animals / possessions and no connections to the community is a man, not a woman. Women are the ones who call, and write the cards, remember the birthdays, do the little favors and obeisances that build and maintain relationships.
As a function of my politics I know many women who can’t stand men. They go about their lives without interpersonal and sometimes even economic and cultural contact with men. They don’t bother informing men: hey I don’t want to be around you. Men come and tell us that they are going “their own way” (to sue their ex wives again is really where they’re going) because they think it will hurt our feelings, because our romantic rejection is the only thing we do that hurts them. They don’t understand that they are dangerous nuisances to us and their attention makes our lives worse.
Also divorce has a limited impact on men financially, while it generally financially devastates women. But women are despite being poorer, happier than men after divorce. If a divorced man has children he also retains a “father benefit” because fathers make more money than childless men (and all women). Men are in no way disadvantaged by society, everything is set up to benefit them (relative to women of their same station) no matter what circumstances they find themselves in. Men’s beef with divorce is that they lose the possessor status that bumps them up the social hierarchy of men. They lose control and ownership of a woman and her children, and that doesn’t seem fair to them. They have to continue to pay for objects they can’t control and use, and they aren’t accustomed to personal sacrifice (with no potential for glory) or inconvenience. A woman’s earning and achievement potential is severely curtailed by having children, and she just has to live with it from her early twenties to the end of her life. Men can’t stand the thought of paying $400 a month for 18 years (out of a 70-90 year lifespan) with the benefit of having passed on their DNA, with the earning bump from father bias and being relieved of virtually all responsibility relating to care of their offspring which allows them to achieve in areas actually valued by society. Life honestly can’t be made easier for men relative to women, but they have these little childish fits anyway, and a handful of them go on to commit felonies about it.