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Thank you so much for this. I've been married for 6 months and ever since I've been married I've been fatigued, unmotivated and depressed due to all the housework overload my husband and my stepdaughter are bringing. I've looked at a series of articles about this and all they say it's my fault, I'm being abusive for complaining, "husbands are sloppy, it's ok", and so on. The truth is they are cynical, they know what they are doing and they are abusing us by using our labour and our time, getting all the work done at our expenses. I can't help but think that if I don't walk away from this marriage now things will get worse.

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I feel ya. Went through weaponized incompetence 30+ years ago.

I first left him after the first year but then went back to him. HUGE mistake. Abuse does escalate with time and can spread to other areas of life like sex, finances, etc.

You are not irrational to complain. You have every right to communicate the inequity to your family members and how it affects you and your relationship with them.

I don't want to tell you what to do but I left my partner after 4 years of living with him and I don't regret it one iota, my only regret was going back to him after that first year.

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