I don't think it's at all a coincidence that this is also Nurse's Week and all I'm getting on my timeline is more romantic bullshit about how "caring" and "compassionate" and "superhuman" nurses are--all while I have phone conversations across the nation with nurses who have nuclear-level PTSD on the level of combat veterans from COVID-19 and hospitals are STILL abusing the shit out of us.
Women and AFAB people are literally *not allowed* to have trauma, sadness, agony, pain, fatigue, needs WHATSOEVER. And I'm getting fucking tired of it. We need a general strike for those of us with uteruses--yesterday.
I’ve thought the same thing the past couple of years. I also was helping the PTA set up for teacher appreciation week and a 5th grade girl saw us in the lounge and asked what we were doing. I told her and she asked “is it teacher appreciation week because it’s near Mother’s Day”. I told her what a great observation she made and it’s very likely why we appreciate female dominated professions this time of the year. She’s already a great feminist at 11 years old!
I noticed it (the Mother's Day/Teacher Appreciation Week thing) too. I realized it at the Open House that occurred on Thursday, in the middle of Teacher Appreciation Week because I was overwhelmed with trying to figure out how to do something for my mother, stepmother, and myself, when I realized I had not done anything for my son's teacher...and while I was being berated by the bd via text for not letting him come have a vacation weekend in my home.
My husband is working🫠 his schedule played very beneficial for him that he works this weekend..and has off Fathers Day. So yet another year of me celebrating by myself.
I got lucky—i set up something with my mother and his last weekend because they knew he would be working, and as our family lives 3 hours away, there is NO way I was driving in a car for 3 hours by myself with a 10mo old and a 6 year old. So I made our family visit them last weekend so I wouldn’t be forced to do shit this weekend!
Unfortunately though..I still won’t get even a “happy Mother’s Day” from him, so I decided to just make the whole weekend as special as possible with my kiddos
Well he usually works on Mothers Day. He worked at least half of the Mothers Day throughout our 18 years of marriage including my first Mother’s Day. So planning a getaway would have been with just me and the kids likely which I still find not as bad and disappointing as him. I’ll have the best Mother’s Day next year because I’m going to plan for the kids and I to go away! No more disappointment in him refusing to acknowledge what I do as a mother.
good news (comment was from 2023) our divorce is final as of last week. He
My husband asks me to lay out very specifically what I want to do and no matter how simple I make it he complains the entire weekend about how difficult and overwhelming it is. Next year I think I am just going to book hotel by myself for Mother’s Day.
Actually book hotel by yourself for the whole week and weekend—and don’t meal prep for him or ease the load at all—and then he may get a glimpse of the reality of the work you do every day. I found my ex needed a full two weeks before he understood.
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I don't think it's at all a coincidence that this is also Nurse's Week and all I'm getting on my timeline is more romantic bullshit about how "caring" and "compassionate" and "superhuman" nurses are--all while I have phone conversations across the nation with nurses who have nuclear-level PTSD on the level of combat veterans from COVID-19 and hospitals are STILL abusing the shit out of us.
Women and AFAB people are literally *not allowed* to have trauma, sadness, agony, pain, fatigue, needs WHATSOEVER. And I'm getting fucking tired of it. We need a general strike for those of us with uteruses--yesterday.
I’ve thought the same thing the past couple of years. I also was helping the PTA set up for teacher appreciation week and a 5th grade girl saw us in the lounge and asked what we were doing. I told her and she asked “is it teacher appreciation week because it’s near Mother’s Day”. I told her what a great observation she made and it’s very likely why we appreciate female dominated professions this time of the year. She’s already a great feminist at 11 years old!
I noticed it (the Mother's Day/Teacher Appreciation Week thing) too. I realized it at the Open House that occurred on Thursday, in the middle of Teacher Appreciation Week because I was overwhelmed with trying to figure out how to do something for my mother, stepmother, and myself, when I realized I had not done anything for my son's teacher...and while I was being berated by the bd via text for not letting him come have a vacation weekend in my home.
My husband is working🫠 his schedule played very beneficial for him that he works this weekend..and has off Fathers Day. So yet another year of me celebrating by myself.
SAME! As always and still couldn’t anticipate to reserve a brunch time months in advance.
I got lucky—i set up something with my mother and his last weekend because they knew he would be working, and as our family lives 3 hours away, there is NO way I was driving in a car for 3 hours by myself with a 10mo old and a 6 year old. So I made our family visit them last weekend so I wouldn’t be forced to do shit this weekend!
Unfortunately though..I still won’t get even a “happy Mother’s Day” from him, so I decided to just make the whole weekend as special as possible with my kiddos
Yup that is what I do too. I think I’m going to start planning weekend getaways for us on Mothers Day weekend.
For yourself! Why work all weekend? Leave kids with him for once.
Well he usually works on Mothers Day. He worked at least half of the Mothers Day throughout our 18 years of marriage including my first Mother’s Day. So planning a getaway would have been with just me and the kids likely which I still find not as bad and disappointing as him. I’ll have the best Mother’s Day next year because I’m going to plan for the kids and I to go away! No more disappointment in him refusing to acknowledge what I do as a mother.
good news (comment was from 2023) our divorce is final as of last week. He
Congratulations! It is not easy but so great to get your life back!
My husband asks me to lay out very specifically what I want to do and no matter how simple I make it he complains the entire weekend about how difficult and overwhelming it is. Next year I think I am just going to book hotel by myself for Mother’s Day.
Actually book hotel by yourself for the whole week and weekend—and don’t meal prep for him or ease the load at all—and then he may get a glimpse of the reality of the work you do every day. I found my ex needed a full two weeks before he understood.
Zawn, Suzie Orman has now jumped on the bandwagon of the FairPlay manifesto
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