Why men encourage their wives to stay home, then complain about their wives staying home

No matter what you do, it's wrong. And that's the point.

“My wife doesn’t have a job. She just stays home all day spending my money.”

“I don’t have to help out with the kids. That’s your job. I’m the one supporting us while you sit around all day.”

“What exactly is it you do all day?”

These are just a small sample of the abusive, vile things I have heard men say to and about their stay-at-home wives. Their supposed partners. The people raising their children.

What all of these men share in common is that they wanted their wives to stay at home with their children. Their partners did not make these choices in a vacuum. Over and over, women tell me of husbands who pleaded with them to stay home, who promised to support them, who guilted them into not using daycare.

And now, these men denigrate their partners for making the very choice they pleaded with them to make—the very choice a misogynist society tells us good and worthy women must make.