gaslighting inequality

'You're so resentful!' How abusive partners weaponize women's dissatisfaction

Resentment is the natural, normal reaction to oppression.

Apr 23 •

'But I don't care about that task!' The weapons sexist men use

Men undermine the value of the work their partners do as a way of getting out of household labor.

Apr 9 •

"Maybe he's neurodivergent!" Gaslighting women to excuse inequality and abuse

Emotional abuse, inequality, and maltreatment are not symptoms of any form of neurodivergence--and to imply otherwise is ableist.

Mar 5 •

Do heterosexual men actually want sex? Or do they just want to complain about it?

When sex requires work, men would rather go without.

Feb 27 •

'Men just grieve differently:' How we excuse men from meeting their partners' emotional needs

During life's worst moments, abusive men turn away from their partners. And society excuses it with false claims about gender differences.

Jan 23 •

Gaslighting women at the holidays: 'Your children don't need everything to be perfect!'

Why we love to pretend the work women do at the holidays doesn't matter.

Dec 12, 2023 •

"At least he's trying!" How we excuse sexism at home: Gaslighting inequality series (paid subscriber bonus)

In a world where men get credit for doing anything, and women get credit for nothing at all, women are always wrong.

Oct 10, 2023 •

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