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gaslighting inequality

Patriarchy's Playbook: The formula men use to exploit, gaslight, abuse, and trap women
They're all using the exact same tools. But once you know how those tools work, they're far less effective.
 • Zawn Villines
Your loved ones may support your abuser. Here's why.
Abuse survivors often face revictimization when loved ones rally to support their abusers.
 • Zawn Villines
'Your presence is present enough!' Why we love to pretend women's holiday labor doesn't matter
Why we love to pretend the work women do at the holidays doesn't matter.
 • Zawn Villines
'You make everything about gender! Women can be violent, too!" Gaslighting inequality series
We don't have to address women's occasional abuse before tackling men's systematic, rampant abuse.
 • Zawn Villines
Hiring a housecleaner can't solve household inequality. Stop pretending otherwise.
Why telling women to hire a housecleaner rather than demand more of their partners is just another flavor of victim-blaming.
 • Zawn Villines
Do heterosexual men actually want sex? Or do they just want to complain about it?
When sex requires work, men would rather go without.
 • Zawn Villines
Stop shaming mothers for using childcare
'Well I just don't want a nanny raising my kids, and I also think mothers should never be away from their children ever, forever.' Shut up.
 • Zawn Villines
'You're overreacting!' The magic words patriarchy uses to justify everything
The myth of the hysterical, overreactive woman is key to upholding patriarchy.
 • Zawn Villines
'Is 50/50 possible?' How the myth of inevitable exploitation upholds patriarchy
Pretending equality is impossible is just one more way of letting men off the hook.
 • Zawn Villines
'That's never happened to me!' Gaslighting inequality
It doesn't matter if it's never happened to you. It matters that it's happened to somebody.
 • Zawn Villines
Why do women blame other women for abuse?
Victim-blaming among women is one of patriarchy's most important and effective tools
 • Zawn Villines
Why do we shame mothers for complaining about the challenges of motherhood?
Complaining about the untenable realities of motherhood is a vital political act.
 • Zawn Villines
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