bad advice

Is it unreasonable to expect my husband to celebrate my birthday? Bad Advice

This letter perfectly embodies what goes wrong in couples therapy, and how even therapists participate in the gaslighting of women.

Apr 3 • Zawn Villines

My girlfriend broke up with me over my messy apartment: Feminist Advice, Bad Advice Edition

How very dare she not accept the real me?!

Nov 28, 2025 • Zawn Villines

Semen hand and roast beef labia: Two bad advice columns in one column!

I listed this article on my to-do list as "write semen hand," which might be the most unhinged sentence I've ever written.

Sep 19, 2025 • Zawn Villines

My husband's sex 'prank' traumatized me: Bad Advice

A husband's prank looks more like sexual assault--so predictably, a male advice columnist dismisses it.

Jun 23, 2025 • Zawn Villines

I don't think we should fire men for misogyny: Feminist Advice, Bad Advice Edition

A writer suggests firing men for violent misogyny might be going too far. But it's ok, because he's a feminist!

Mar 28, 2025 • Zawn Villines

My husband called me a bad mom and skipped my prenatal appointment: Bad Advice

A male advice columnist told a woman she's "overreacting" to her partner's verbal abuse. Because of course he did.

Feb 21, 2025 • Zawn Villines

I have terminal cancer, and my wife still won't have sex with me: Feminist Advice Friday, Bad Advice Edition

A man thinks getting sex would change everything--but doesn't seem to want to do anything that might get him sex.

Oct 11, 2024 • Zawn Villines

My parents make fatphobic comments and insult my appearance: Bad Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus

A reader's parents insult her body--and an advice columnist suggests maybe they're entitled to continue commenting on her body

Aug 16, 2024 • Zawn Villines

My husband was sexually predatory. Now he's playing the victim: Bad Advice Friday paid subscriber bonus

A woman's husband triggered her during sex. Now she's comforting him--and the sex 'experts' she contacted agree he deserves her support.

Aug 9, 2024 • Zawn Villines

My girlfriend broke up with me over my messy apartment: Feminist Advice Friday, Bad Advice Edition

How very dare she not accept the real me?!

Jul 25, 2024 • Zawn Villines

Bad Advice Friday: My new husband went to a strip club

A woman is upset that her husband went to a strip club, so the original advice columnists made fun of her for being a prude.

Jun 7, 2024 • Zawn Villines

Now that I'm pregnant, my husband ignores me: Bad Advice Friday

Dear Abby tells a pregnant woman to accept the abuse her husband dishes out--because of course she does.

May 24, 2024 • Zawn Villines

#nojs-banner { position: fixed; bottom: 0; left: 0; padding: 16px 16px 16px 32px; width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; background: red; color: white; font-family: -apple-system, "Segoe UI", Roboto, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif, "Apple Color Emoji", "Segoe UI Emoji", "Segoe UI Symbol"; font-size: 13px; line-height: 13px; } #nojs-banner a { color: inherit; text-decoration: underline; } This site requires JavaScript to run correctly. Please turn on JavaScript or unblock scripts