bad advice

My girlfriend broke up with me over my messy apartment: Feminist Advice Friday, Bad Advice Edition

How very dare she not accept the real me?!

Jul 25 •

Bad Advice Friday: My new husband went to a strip club

A woman is upset that her husband went to a strip club, so the original advice columnists made fun of her for being a prude.

Jun 7 •

Now that I'm pregnant, my husband ignores me: Bad Advice Friday

Dear Abby tells a pregnant woman to accept the abuse her husband dishes out--because of course she does.

May 24 •

My husband doesn't want to parent our baby: Feminist Advice Friday Bad Advice Edition (paid subscriber bonus)

An advice columnist suggests that working 168 hours without time off is equal to working 40 hours, because of course women don't matter.

Mar 29 •

Bad Advice Friday: My partner refuses to treat me as an equal

A relationship coaching team tell a woman her husband's bad treatment is her fault.

Feb 1 •

My husband doesn't celebrate my birthday: Bad Advice Friday (paid subscriber bonus)

This letter perfectly embodies what goes wrong in couples therapy, and how even therapists participate in the gaslighting of women.

Oct 13, 2023 •

Bad Advice Friday: Should I abandon my inconvenient child?

An advice columnist tells a father it's completely fine to abandon his inconvenient child. If the mother had been a better mother, maybe he wouldn't…

Aug 17, 2023 •

Feminist Advice Friday, Bad Advice Edition: My marriage is melting down and my husband refuses therapy

The bullshit of "You can be right or you can be married."

Mar 16, 2023 •

Bad Advice Friday: There is always a pile of dishes in our sink, and I'm doing way more than my fair share.

This month's bad advice from another columnist instructs a woman that, if her husband doesn't do the dishes, she should just do them herself. Because…

Dec 22, 2022 •

Feminist Advice Friday, Bad Advice Edition: My daughter in law caught me badmouthing her

A woman gets caught badmouthing her daughter in law, and wants to know how best to punish her DIL for her hurt feelings.

Aug 11, 2022 •

The terrible advice we give women about sex and relationships

Advice-giving as a way to normalize oppression

Jul 14, 2022 •

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