A syllabus on feminism, relationships, maternal feminism, and abuse
Plus: a discount on paid membership
This week marks the start of my annual membership drive. That’s why you’re receiving this email on Monday, a day on which I don’t typically publish. Folks have long asked me for a guide to sexism, or for information on specific topics. This is the result—a syllabus of my most significant pieces on popular topics. Scroll down to see the final list.
Many of these pieces are free to anyone who wants to read them, but some are for paid subscribers only, highlighting the value of a paid subscription. If you are a new subscriber and subscribe between now and next Monday, you’ll get a 20% discount off of the usual subscription fee. If you’re already a subscriber, don’t cancel; your subscription is locked in at your current rate, and you will be charged the current standard rate if you cancel.
As part of this membership drive, I’ll be featuring some of my favorite pieces of past content on Facebook. Perhaps even better, this membership drive leads up to the final, at long last, release of my podcast next week. Paid subscribers will be the only people who get to listen to episode zero, which is a sort of beta test/AMA/up-close-and-personal episode with my husband and me. I’ll be releasing the first official episode two weeks later on all the standard podcast platforms, but paid subscribers here and on Substack will get the episode a few days early.
So what else do you get if you subscribe?
Access to the free, totally confidential Liberating Motherhood Facebook group—a place users constantly tell me is the safest and most resourceful place on the Internet.
At least two bonus pieces of content each week, including an additional Feminist Advice Friday column.
The ability to comment on posts and participate in this community (you can register and comment anonymously, which makes Substack safer than Facebook for many people).
Here’s the link to subscribe now.
And if you want to, you can give unlimited gift memberships at the discount rate.
While I have your attention, a reminder about my editorial calendar and what you can expect here:
I publish a paid piece every Tuesday.
I publish a free Feminist Advice Friday column a day early here, on Thursday.
I publish an additional free piece on Thursday.
I publish a bonus paid Feminist Advice Friday column on Friday.
Irregularly, I publish additional content on Saturdays—often apolitical in nature, on topics such as making living as a writer.
You can also buy feminist merchandise on Tee Public. And if you’d like to support me on a platform other than Substack, or to provide additional support to fund scholarships for people who need them, you can do so on Patreon.
Finally, if you cannot afford to pay for a subscription, you can seek a scholarship by doing the following:
Email zawn@zawn.net. Put “substack scholarship” in the subject line. If you use ANY other subject line I may not see your message.
In the body of your email, state that you cannot afford to pay the $7 monthly fee, and are requesting a scholarship.
I’m opening comments up to everyone in this post. So please consider sharing what you’d like me to talk about next (or cover in more detail).
Sex and sexuality in heterosexual relationships
Scheduled sex is coerced sex. Here’s why.
‘You owe me sex.’ And other ways sexist men weaponize sex.
The real reasons women lose interest in sex with men
Do heterosexual men actually want sex? Or do they just want to complain about it?
If you’re a man whose partner doesn’t want enough sex, here’s what you need to know.
No, it’s not his ‘love language,’ and other harmful myths about sex
What heterosexual men need to know when their partners lose interest in sex
Feminism for men
Fear: The missing piece in men’s understanding of sexism and women
The Not Just Men hotline is here to help with your #notjustmen emergency
How to make your wife not hate you on Mother’s Day
I’m not teaching men for free anymore—and neither should you
Hello! You’ve reached the Not All Men Hotline
10 ways men can be less sexist
How can I be a better feminist ally?
An open letter to all of the men who want to ‘do better’
The myth of the bumbling nice guy
What men need to know before emailing me
How manosphere and red pill ideologies doom men to loneliness and unhappy relationships
Does the red pill guy get the girl?
Research on the scope and severity of sexism in relationships
Results of the State of Sexuality survey
Results of the Parenting Survey
Results of the Experiences With Divorce Survey
Results of the State of Household Inequality Survey
Results of the State of Postpartum Survey
Results of the State of Marriage Survey
Why household inequality is so harmful
How household chore inequality destroys women’s lives and potential
Why household labor inequity is abuse
How unequal is your marriage or partnership? Find out with this tool
Why household chore inequity is abuse
Parenting in a patriarchy
‘We just have different parenting styles!’ How men escape accountability for bad parenting
Family courts and child custody are biased against women, not men
The real reason your husband constantly undermines your parenting
Maybe he’s not actually a good dad
Therapy and couples counseling
Why couples counseling so often makes things worse
My therapist tells me to have more ‘feminine energy.’
Why couples counseling won’t solve household inequality
My male therapist says I need to do more housework for my husband
Do you have advice for choosing a therapist?
Does the Gottman method work, or is it just another way to reinforce misogyny?
Fair Play and other strategies for gaining household equity
The problem with Fair Play, and other systems for gaining household equity
Why nothing works to bring about household labor equality
Stop blaming women for household labor inequality
Recognizing and escaping abuse
Resources for women in crisis: Escaping domestic violence, financial assistance, and more
Why the threat of violence lurks in every unequal relationship
Signs your partner doesn’t actually love you
If you’re in an abusive relationship and need to leave, here’s what you need to know
Nice gets you killed: A plea to stop giving dangerous men the benefit of the doubt
Is the biased family court system a reason to stay in an abusive marriage?
Can my husband still be abusive if he’s really nice most of the time?
Gift giving, holidays, and men who don’t give presents
Why are so many men awful to their partners on Valentine’s Day?
My husband never gets me gifts
What dad privilege looks like during the holidays
Why do so many men ruin every holiday with a bad mood?
Why is Mother’s Day an issue for so many men?
Sexism directed at mothers
Welcome to motherhood. Fuck you.
Why do we treat mothers like they’re stupid?
Gaslighting women at the holidays: ‘Your children don’t need everything to be perfect!’
Parenting as a mom vs. parenting as a dad
Why do we insist on pretending women don’t work?
Preparing for motherhood and/or creating an equitable relationship
How can I prepare for motherhood?
How did you talk to your husband about household labor inequality?
Protecting yourself as a stay-at-home mother
Stay-at-home motherhood
How do we split labor if I’m a stay-at-home mother?
Please don’t become a stay-at-home mother
Dating advice, green flags, and red flags
Am I allowed to enjoy chivalry?
Do women pick bad men, or are abusers just skilled liars?
What’s your advice for feminist hookups?
What does a good marriage look like?
What does conflict look like in a healthy relationship?
Do you have any advice for online dating?
How men trap women, and how to avoid becoming a victim
5 things young women considering marriage need to know to protect themselves
Is it reasonable to expect equality when I’m dating with kids?
Do you have dating advice for college students?
Quiet quitting and other tools for coping
Troubleshooting quiet quitting: What to do when it’s not working
Quiet quitting 101: How to emotionally detach from your sexist or abusive partner
Maybe it’s time to quiet quit your marriage
My husband won’t change, but I can’t leave
Maternal mental health
How can I help my wife with postpartum depression?
Maybe it’s not postpartum depression. Maybe the problem is motherhood in a patriarchy.
How to not destroy your partner’s mental health in the postpartum period
Men, not hormones, are the leading cause of postpartum depression
Your postpartum depression is probably your male partner’s fault
Ongoing series
I’ve also published a number of series on how society exploits women. Find them here:
A podcast!!!! Yeah, I absolutely can’t wait!